My ex and I broke up over a year ago but we still sleep together.
My ex (34m) and I (34f) dated for about 9 months and a couple months after we broke up I reached out to him for a hook up because I was lonely and “in the mood”.
He didn’t hesitate at all and came right over. Now it’s over a year later and we still hook up about once a week. He’s usually the one who initiates our “dates” now.
I do not have any interest in starting a relationship with him again and as far as I know, he doesn’t either. We broke up for a reason and that hasn’t changed. He is fantastic in bed and I am insanely attracted to him, I just don’t know how to say no.
I guess I’m just looking for some objective advice about the situation. I’ve never had a FWB relationship that’s lasted this long before and I’m not sure it’s healthy to keep it going. Thoughts, please?
Netizens’ comments
- Not technically a problem if you’re both fine with it, but definitely cut it off before you want to date other people. I would never go out with someone who was still banging their ex, or even recently banging their ex
- I don’t see and issue, but long term if one person ends up wanting more and the other doesn’t then someone will get hurt. As long as you’re both aware of that risk then it’s fine
- Obviously your desire to F is greater than wanting to say no, as long as feelings arent returning then I dont see an issue here?
- What are your long-term goals regarding partnership? If you don’t have any, absolutely keep going if it makes you feel good. If you are hoping to meet someone else long-term, end this. Yes it’s only once a week, but that’s once a week you could be making connections with other people, who can connect you to more people to eventually help you find someone you’re crazy for whose life goals align with yours.