My bf (m30) lied to me (f25) about his finances
He has been saying he makes a lot of money. He said the most he made was 300k and now is making 150k. I was on his phone and saw a text with his mom about taxes it said he made 80k last year.
He pays for a lot of things. I’ve noticed comments his mom says he needs to save more and stop spending money.
We recently went on a vacation and he kept mentioning the room was $800 but when i looked online it was $250.. don’t know how to approach this because i find out by seeing his phone.
He also said he has no debt but apparently he has a lot- i don’t know the extent of it though.
I want to have an open conversation about this since we are planning to move in together. I’ve tried to start the conversation but he sticks to the story.
What should i do? How to i approach this? Not sure if i should continue since only 6 months and these are big lies to me.
Netizens’ comments
- These are way too many lies in a short period of time. I would start wondering what else is a lie. No trust no relationship. I’m not one to rush to the breakup option usually but this warrants it.
- Don’t move on with him, especially after dating such a short amount of time. It’s weird that he’s divulged his earnings to you at all, and nearly predatory that he has lied so unnecessarily.
To me, this indicates that he’s not trustworthy & becoming more involved with him is a mistake. - Girl run. He’s a lying to you and he’s financially irresponsible.
- Yes, that would end up being a deal breaker for a lot of people.
The dishonesty and feeling like you’re being led into a trap.
A massive contributor to divorce is finances. Do not proceed with someone unless you’re fully confident in them. Once living together or married… Your life depends on the finances. Avoid those who are going to make your life harder financially, being a liability to you. Holding your own is hard enough, you don’t need worry yourself about saving someone else
Deep down in your heart you know the truth… he is going to hide things from you and be dishonest where he can. Why would you willingly sign up for a long term relationship and commit to it?
When times get tough in relationships, the honest couples are the ones who survive.
People ignore these early signs and wonder how their relationship turned to shit. You’re seeing parts of his character NOW that he is hiding from you. Going at it for another year, you’re committed more and this behavior is running full throttle. To complicate it, you’re living together now and it makes it harder to end things so you stick around in a shit relationship in hopes it will get better… it never does.
You’re setting yourself for a disaster. There is nothing promising here and you know it, you just haven’t accepted it.
Don’t ignore the early signs, your gut is knows there’s something off (you wouldn’t be on reddit otherwise).
Follow your gut…