My husband and I feel like we failed as parents
We took our daughter ( 15F) to her doctor’s appointment and, while we expected the number on the scale to be a bit on the heavier side, we were not expecting her to be nearly 220 pounds.
This didn’t seem to shock our daughter at all.
How she got to this weight, we already know. I work late hours often, as does my husband and for years upon years, it was a case where dinner for her was something microwaveable, frozen, order pizza, or, wait until one of us was home for a quick minute and we’d rush through a fast food drive thru.
As we reflected on it, we realized we’d been sleepwalking essentially, through plenty of things that should’ve alarmed us, like how often we’ve had to let out her pants for school, or how even getting off of the couch has become laborious for her.
We are a bit shocked that after seeing that number, she isn’t more alarmed and seems fine continuing a sedentary lifestyle.
My husband and I are lost as to what to do next with her.
Start exercising as a family. Walking outdoors, at the park. Dancing is a fun activity as well. Try new recipes together as a family that are healthy but flavorful. Make sure to have a weekend treat like pizza, ice cream, etc.
Most importantly, don’t make her feel bad. Motivate her, encourage her. But tread lightly. My mom destroyed my self esteem when I was younger by harping on me. And I wasn’t even heavy.