My husband (27M) seems to love to tell me at every opportunity (26F)that if we were to ever separate our child stays with him?
My husband (27m) and I (26f) have been together for 4 years and married for almost 2 months.
When we first had our baby last year we had got into an argument. Basically I was going through it emotionally after we had our baby and he didn’t really seem to care. I didn’t feel very supported by him at all and he often chose what my in laws wanted over my comfort.
Anyways he assumed I was planning on leaving him and taking our child with me which i was not. He took that opportunity to tell me our baby will be staying with him if I leave which broke me.
The next incident, my husband was talking moving overseas when he retires and I told him that i wasn’t interested in moving then he decided to tell me well our child will be going with him if he moves. I just stayed silent. Obviously if he were to retire our baby will be grown by then but whatever.
This leads me into yesterday. My husband does not want us to ever own animals where as I’m an animal lover. Ofc I know he doesn’t like animals so accepted that I may never own any ever again.
So he decided to joke about us getting a chihuahua and I played along and said sure basically. After I agreed with him he backed out and said no we’re not get a chihuahua.
I joked back and said I’d move then so that I could have a chihuahua. Again, just joking and nothing serious. He once again took the opportunity and said well our baby is staying with me. I fell silent.
Ever since our baby has been born I have never once said to him i was going to take her away from him. That’s not even in my thoughts as why would it be?
Idk but I’m starting to notice a pattern with him and it’s really starting to rub me the wrong way. Like he sees me as an enemy just waiting to take our child from him or something.
Also side note regarding our current baby, I take on most of the child rearing and he seems to like to pawn off his responsibility of her either on to me or his mom whenever he gets the chance. So the irony I guess?? Both of our families have noticed this about him also.. Thoughts?