How can i accept and get over the unpleasant things my MIL did towards me and my husband?
She has did a few things (e.g: kicking us out of her house when we had nowhere to stay because she wanted privacy in her 5 room flat alone, after we paid for her refurbishing of the home / also refusing to acknowledge my presence or talk to me or reply to me).
Another issue that i get angry about everytime is when she attended our wedding reception half heartedly.
She was late and didn’t welcome my husband’s side of guests whom she herself invited. She acted like a guest and she acted like she is not a host. Throughout the wedding she didn’t really talk and black face. She is a single mother so no FIL there to comfort her. Halfway through the reception she just left and let my parents handled everything else.
It is such a bad memory whenever i think of the day i got married. I tried my best not to cry during the celebrations of the reception. My husband was sad too.
Fast forward today.. It’s been a few years and i just cannot forgive nor can i forget all this.my first year of marriage was rocky especially after being kicked out as we had nowhere to stay and had to beg my parents to squeeze into their home before finding a place to rent. In this sense i felt it was mostly her fault. I have always imagined my first year of marriage to be a good one but it was full of challenges. I have never mentioned my anger/sadness to her when we visit, and when we interact it’s always pleasant despite our history. My husband has expressed his disappointment to her previously (especially about the wedding) but she will just ignore him.
I concluded that she probably has her own issues, my husband did mention she can be quite erratic… so now I want to forgive and forget everything but it’s been really hard. How do i do this? Of course i cannot expect her to apologise or do anything, but i want to forget all this on my own terms and be at peace
FYI all these did not happen before we got married. She was totally normal and fine before we got married. Sometimes i feel a little shortchanged by this, especially when my husband has been treated so well by my parents but i have been treated like shit by his mom.