My (33F) partner (30M) not putting on clothes after showering
My partner (30M) and I (33F) have been together for 3.5 years. We moved in together 3 years ago and it is just the two of us in the house.
I feel that we have passed the honeymoon phase of our relationship. I don’t think intense physical chemistry can be sustained long term in a relationship in the same way it usually is at the start (maybe I’m wrong?).
Anyway, my libido has dropped and I just don’t feel like engaging in intimacy much these days. I have no interest in anyone else, for that matter.
My partner had gotten into the habit of wandering around/sitting around the house without wearing absolutely anything for hours every night after his shower.
After a while, it just got old for me and I requested that he start putting his clothes on after drying off from the shower.
Now he’s really upset and says that I find him repulsive looking and disgusting, that he feels unattractive to me. I reassured him multiple times that this was not the case however he doesn’t believe me and remains salty.
Honestly- I don’t find him unattractive/repulsive at all but I just got sick of him pandering around without clothes all the time. However he enjoys it.
Was I unreasonable in my request?
Netizens’ comments
- Why does it seem like you are just expecting the both of you to be miserable with no end? You don’t seem to be interested in a solution, just wanting things to not so in-your-face so you dont have to acknowledge it
- I don’t feel like this is a great fit for two humans. I love being carefree in the privacy of my own home and if my partner didn’t like it idk…
- I saw a couple on TT giving advice after being married for 30+ years. One of the things they said was “intimacy in bed isn’t everything. But it is a really important thing”