Hey hey, so long story short, I just found out some woman that I used to be “talking” to, is single for the first time in a while, and so I decided to slide into her DMs and just ask if she would be interested in going on a date – and she said yes! But now where it gets tricky, is that she’s out of town for the next ~10 days on business, and I’m not sure what the contact etiquette should be.
We’ve hardly spoken in the past 10 years, so we’re basically starting from scratch.
If you were me, would it be wiser to just wait until she gets back to town to start contacting, so I’m not hitting her up and trying to get to re-know her via text? I feel like I should be reaching out at least every other day so that I stay in front of mind, but that sounds like my own issues getting in the way of looking like a functioning adult…
Anyway, any advice is appreciated.
Here are what netizens think:
- If she’s out of town, I wouldn’t bother her too much. Maybe once to let her know you hope she’s enjoying her time away (but nothing that she would feel obligated to respond to) and the day or so around the time she gets back so you can confirm plans. Any more than that, and it sends a signal that you’re on the fast track to becoming obsessed. Especially if she’s newly single.
- Don’t do every other day. Maybe once at the mid-way point and again when you know she’s back to confirm plans.
- If I were the woman in this situation, I would like getting a text or two while I was away. It would feel nice to casually chat before the date a little bit. I personally find it a little odd when someone sets a date and then goes completely radio silent until the date, especially if it’s many days or a week+ away. This is personal preference though! You can gauge how she feels by how she responds. If she’s super engaged, maybe that’s an opening for a little more texting. If she’s terse and takes a long time to reply, she’s probably busy and/or isn’t into talking a lot before the date