My daughter snuck a girl into her bedroom last night
Last night my daughter snuck a girl into her room and I know they were getting intimate inside.
I wasn’t aware of her being into girls and we had never had a talk about it before but I fully support her if she’s lesbian or bi or whatever.
I didn’t say anything when I found out since I was too tired to deal with it but I’m planning on having a talk with her and I’m unsure what exactly to say.
How should I approach this so that my daughter feels safe and comfortable discussing stuff with me and that I will always love and support her?
- Treat it exactly how you would treat it if a boy was in her room. Heard you sneak in a friend last night….wish you would have informed me prior.
Just want to talk to you about protection. Boy girl it doesn’t matter…there are always ways to be emotionally and physically safer than just going into these situations and/or relationships blindly.
Just know I’m here to talk if you ever want information or just someone to talk to. Love you. Oh and if you would like to have your friend over for dinner, she’s more than welcome.
- There’s a lot of “not under my roof” comments flooding in. I would hope that as grown adults we can all remember back to when we were teens and got busy whenever and wherever we could. It’s infinitely safer and more comfortable at home in her own bedroom than in a car or somewhere shady.
- The best way to go about it is to just be upfront! Maybe hit her with something along the lines of the following: “Hi sweetheart, I want you to know I love you so much regardless of your dating preferences [etc etc etc]. That being said, it’s not appropriate for you to be sneaking someone into the house. Exploring is part of growing up but there’s a time and a place for this.”
- “Hey, I know you had a girl over the other night, and I just want you to know I’m fine with that (if you are). I get that you want some privacy, but you don’t have to be overly secretive about this stuff if you don’t want to. Just make sure you’re using protection cuz SDTs are still possible. And if you ever need anything or have any questions, don’t hesitate to ask.”