You hate it here so much? Leave.
Husband comes home in a terrible mood (bad week at work) and he just walks around the house like a storm cloud.
I ask what’s wrong and he goes “I hate the state of our family” and I ask why and he doesn’t elaborate, just says he “doesn’t want to be harassed” (by my question) and goes to take a 45 minute poop.
Then leave. F-ing go then. Nut up and leave. This entire house tiptoes around you and your mood because it dictates the entire vibe of the house, everyone tries their best to not set you off and ruin an entire day.
You don’t do anything around here, you do whatever you want, our kids are well-behaved and rarely get in trouble, the f do you have to complain about?
I do ALL the cooking, cleaning, errands, shopping, bill paying, and 90% of the childcare. All you do is go to work (and so do I). What could be so bad? I would LOVE to be in your shoes.
If the “state of your family” is so bad, LEAVE.
Netizens’ comments
- Sweetheart, tell him tf off. Then you leave if he doesn’t like it. It’s always men like his that doesn’t know what they have until it’s gone.
- I told my sad sack storm cloud just that. 30 years ago. “If we make you so miserable please go.” He left. Moved away. The happiest, huggiest guy entered my life about 7 years after. Guess what? Storm cloud still a miserable complaining person. Whenever he visits our adult children, we can’t wait for the weather to change.
- In the nicest way I can say this: you leave. You literally listed everything that needs done and you do it. Get a divorce and pay for your own stuff and share custody of your kids and be done. You can live in peace and be alone and not deal with his bull crap.
And I say this as another woman that completely understands where you’re coming from. - I’m sorry you are dealing with this. And I say this in the nicest way possible: leave. If your children are learning to tip toe around him and his moods that is going to impact them for the rest of their lives. I am in therapy right now for the exact same thing as it gave me anxiety, a tendency to people please and so much else. But overall it made me hyper sensitive and aware of every little mood change in the people around me and I always feel like it’s my fault and that I am now disliked. It made me have severe anxious attachment style. That comes from tip toeing around my parents and not wanting to set them off. Please for the sake of your kids: leave.