I can’t have this tied to my main, but I really need to say something about it and have no one I can tell.
My wife has a terminal disease. She is projected to live at most 9 months. I am of course destroyed. We’ve been together for a decade. I don’t remember life without her and I don’t know what I’m going to do when she’s gone. I have been doing my best to make the last days of her life good and grant whatever wish I can.
The doctors said that she was likely to need a wheelchair in 4 or 5 months, then by month 8 she’ll be bedridden for the last few weeks. That’s if she doesn’t decline faster.
Recently she sat me down and told me that one of the last things she wanted to do was have S with a previous partner of hers. I of course was shocked and when I asked why the fuck she wants that. So basically she thinks that her most physically compatible satisfying lover was him. She gave a whole monologue about how S sometimes is just physical and how emotionally fulfilling S is with me but it was bullshit to get to that point.
So now I’m left with this, deny my dying wife a wish for my own ego, or let her go fuck another man who she feels was better. Honestly I’m so pissed of and betrayed that she asked this of me. I feel like I’m put in a position where I have to say yes because she’s dying.
I know what I want to say, but I don’t know if that’s right. I’m so hurt that S with an ex was apparently so good that she needs to do it once before she dies. I just hate everything about this.”
But the hypothetical ending would be that he said no.
Here are what netizens think:
- Immediate concern: is she in contact with her ex? Is she seeking permission from you, when she’s already established a reconciliation with her ex? Either way. WTF. She wants your lasting memory of her to be that she left you for a rumble in the bedsheets with an ex? Sorry but her illness is not an excuse to treat you like shit. That is incredibly insulting to you and your relationship.
- If this is a real story, well then, just pack her stuff and let her live with her ex for the rest of her time.
- Agreed. That’s super sketchy, as this seems to have been discussed behind OPs back. Death or not, we ain’t doing none of that. She kicked OP in the gut by basically saying “he’s better than you”. He’s doing good just by sticking around, because that’s bullshit.