ELDERLY MUM THREATENS TO GO ON HUNGER STRIKE UNLESS SON DOES EVERYTHING SHE WANTS

Narcissistic mother on hunger strike

Hi all, need some advise from you guys for my situation. I have a narcissistic mum who likes control of me and to do things according to her wishes.

For context, im a 30plus year old adult who is staying with her (70 years old) only and providing for her such as paying the housing loans , bills and her meals .

She would go to the extent of not letting me do laundry claiming that I would mess up the clothes and stupid stuff like going through every single thing i throw.

I also have to eat whatever she wants me to. Recently, she wanted to force me to drink chicken essence before going to work which i hate.

I was rushing for work and I told her no. Subsequently, when I came home she told me that she would not have her meals as I did not follow what she wants me to do.

This is the third day for her hunger strike. She does this frequently when things dosent go her way. I gave in to her frequently but not this time as I am so sick and tired of her.

I am not sure if she did eat anything when I am not around her though. But I saw her once while on hunger strike snacking on peanuts after I have head off to bed.

Does anyone have any experience on this kind of situation or know is there any authority which i can get assistance from? I am emotionally drained because of her.

Netizens’ comments

1. by giving in to her u are giving her attention just ignore her and she will automatically start eating by herself
   also try to move out if possible as this is not good for your mental health, also since she is already 70 she should be able to stay at a care centre if she isn’t able to take care of herself
2. If you’re going to work I seriously doubt she’s doing a hunger strike. What’s the point of a strike if you’re not there to watch? You have to stand your ground or she’ll know threats like this get you moving her way. Same goes for kids. Some old people are just big toddlers. My mil is the same way like to “force ” people to eat things. Just leave it and go. She’ll have no choice to keep it or eat it herself.