Adult working child still living with elderly parent
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My adult son, +40 years old, having a good job in a very large corporation, drawing a pretty good salary, refuses to move out. Also, not married.
We are living in a 5 room flat, which I feel is too big for just the 2 of us. I have planned to down size to a 3 Br or 4 br directly from HDB to be practical, and capitalise on the capital gain.
The problem is he is against this.
IÂ feel that he has been trying to micro manage my life. This has been going on for year, and I feel that its time I put my foot down.
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Should I feel bad for forcing him out if he is not agreeable to my plan a d desire..?
Here are what netizens think:
- My personal view is if you chase him out now, next time he will not u turn back if you are sick. Good to have children ard you unless children married.
- Your house. Your rules. Your decision. He not happy, he can leave. It’s about time he be independent. He is too damn old to still be staying with mommy.
- Do you really feel bad or it seems the logical way to feel? Personal experience here. I told my son I want to live alone when he’s 28. Deep within, it’s really painful for me. I spent time to forgive myself for this decision but I really want to take my life back. End day, it’s how you come to terms with your decision. Wish you well.
- You have to ask yourself whether you have treated your son this way since he was a child. Perhaps, this is his way of returning the treatment. However, should you force him out of your home instead of downgrading and giving him a space, then don’t call him any names when he decides he’s done with his parents too.
- Weird also…. Hardly see parent want to chase child out. Later son move out alr, u want him to come back more often. Only the 2 of u….Even downsize to 3 room hdb also still got room for him to stay isn’t it? But he don’t have the right to disagree w your housing plans…
- Your son is co owner of the house? If no, just inform him u intend to sell the house. Give him time to move out or buy resale. Dont guess or assume. U wanna to know why he doesnt want u to sell the house, u sit down n talk to him and ask him whats the reason?