My ex is pregnant and claims it’s mine but refuses to allow me to confirm if that’s true
I (25M) have been dealing with some issues from my ex girlfriend (23F). We were together less than a year, broke up back in April of this year. The breakup wasn’t bad, but we did not keep in contact after, aside from 2/3 instances of her trying to get me back.
I recently got into another relationship in July, and my ex girlfriend happened to find out I was in this new relationship around September 1st.
She called me out of the blue on the same day she found out I had a new girlfriend, told me she knew about her and told me that she was pregnant, and claimed it was my child.
She claims to have been pregnant since april, and found out herself in early June. (It is now September, so almost 5 months being pregnant without telling me) I didn’t believe the claim, until she showed me on FaceTime and she was visibly pregnant.
Keep in mind, she had admitted to being with other people since we broke up in April, one of which beginning as early as may.
I told her I was skeptical that this child is mine, and offered on 3 different occasions to do a voluntary paternity test before the baby is born.
She initially denied this, claiming she didn’t want anything from me and to continue on my “new happy life” without her. This then switched to her wanting to wait until the baby is born to establish paternity.
She has been calling me almost every day since, and I refuse to answer because I am worried she is going to try to manipulate me.
I only answer over text and through text she is saying she wants nothing from me, and to forget she exists. The one time I did answer the phone, she was making threats saying she will come after me because she knows I have some money, that she is crazy and can get me hurt, etc.
I don’t really know how to proceed with this, as she waited almost 5 months into her pregnancy to even let me know about the child, will not allow me to establish paternity before birth to allow me time to be prepared for a potential child, and only springs all of this on me the same day she finds out I’m with a new girl.
I feel like an a-hole for not being more supportive of her but she is rejecting my opportunities to even determine if this child is even mine.
I’m just so lost and feel so broken. Please if I’m being dramatic let me know but this has been ruining my life the last few days.