Currently in the first few months of my first job after graduation.
However, here are certain things I realised about my boss (even though he is quite a nice person) and makes me wonder if its red flag.
First of all, he is a workaholic and although by words he say he will not pressure us, but somehow that makes us feel like we should work harder (he does not say it explicitly in a way).
Also, he mentioned that he’s an alpha male during a one to one review session, making me wonder if he is hinting to me that I should better follow his ideas and thoughts.
He expressed that he would want people to take and follow his instructions. Among colleagues in a group setting, he will also repeatedly mention things which links to our personal issues such as our dating life or wealth.
One example would be that as he is from a well to do family, he will tend to say things like ‘go buy a car’ as if anyone can afford to buy it easily. Some statements he made might not be explicit, but it tends to make me feel like he has another meaning behind it. When discussing about work stuffs, he will doubt my words and questions me, making me feel like I do not make sense (maybe I might be a little sensitive about this but it feels like he don’t trust me).
Overall, the vibes with him just feels off and at times quite forceful.
Not sure if I should continue with the job as I feel like my boss might not value me, even though I enjoy working my my other colleagues.
Here are what netizens think:
- You are gaining work experience. That includes learning how to handle and deal with the people you work with. Working with all sorts of people also trains you to manage and improve your interpersonal relationship skills. Even bad managers can teach us how to be good leaders. You will learn what not to do because you’ve experienced exactly that and know what is lacking. Also if you can survive the worst, there will be nothing you can’t cope.
- You wanna feel valued , then make yourself valuable by proving your capabilities. can’t expect it to drop from the sky. a degree do not equal to you are “better”. it just giving you the knowledge and know how. however, knowing how to apply such knowledge is what bosses or company need. not that piece of paper.
- Sounds like he’s an Alpha in the low EQ department. With that being said, your first job doesn’t have to be a shit experience you deserve a better work environment and better boss who you can learn from. Keep looking and apply for better opportunities.