not giving wedding hong bao I was a bridesmaid for after receiving only $20 as a hong bao.
A old friend of mine recently got married and asked me to be a bridesmaid. I said yes as I felt we were moderately close since we went to school together.
We barely meet twice a year since graduating. But she is really calculative every time we meet, even texting me to ask to return her $10, splitting the bill down to the cent etc… We are both pretty comfortable and money isn’t an issue for us.
However, I only received a $20 hong bao from her after going through all the effort to help her for the wedding. We had to Grab to her house at the wee hours of the morning, pay for the bridesmaid dresses on our own and do our own make up, hair etc.
The wedding was held on a weekday and the whole bridal party had to take leave to go for the wedding. The wedding was held at an upscale venue and she had the whole works so it’s not like she was on a budget.
Honestly, it was not so much of the amount of money but like feeling she took us for granted and, didn’t even bother to offer to cover the cost.
After the wedding, she just sent a text in the WhatsApp group “thks for your hard work” (lmao sis this not CCA camp sia…)
The $20 ang bao was honestly pretty insulting lol… Was kinda pissed alr and didn’t bother to put in the wedding hong bao. IDK man…
Netizens’ comments
- NTA. Similar experience.
Shitty feeling. Think alot of people out there somehow dont value other people’s time. Probably the same kind of people who call plumbers to fix their leaking pipe, then if the plumber makes 1 small adjustment in 10 seconds, they ask if can get discount since only 10seconds of effort, without considering travel time, carrying shit around, before i even talk about experience.
And yeah, just people think everyone’s time is free because you are their friend or some shit.
Especially if you work in jobs that pay by the hour. Very easy way to value someone’s time.
$20 for that effort and time, even I work at Mcdonalds also better. - If what you say is true, it does sound like she took you and the others for granted. Can see why you’re pissed. I think even if you didn’t get $20 but if she really made it a point to treat to a nice catch up meal to thank you personally (even if it cost less than $20), it would have meant something.
The most important thing right now is don’t bring it up with the other bridesmaids or else you’ll end up sounding very catty/bitchy. If they bring it up then just casually agree.
Gotta play it cool. I think you did the right thing to check here if you were the ass.