My fiancé is asking questions about my previous experiences in bed with my exes. I don’t want to lie, but I need to know the best way to answer honestly without hurting him.
My fiancé has been trying to get me to tell him he is the best lover I’ve ever had. From a purely physical chemistry, this isn’t exactly the case.
Of course I love sleeping with him so much I’m going to commit to doing it only with him and only him for the rest of my life. We have a very active life in bed and we both have a lot of fun.
That enough for me. Fun loving is all I want in a relationship. I’ve had amazing experiences before and it’s not really all that.
I’d much rather have my fiancé who is good in bed, and an amazing man and partner, than be with the guy who I would say I was the best in bed with, who was an immature borderline alcoholic douchebag who only wanted to see me when we were going to sleep together.
Amazing chemistry and physical compatibility means nothing to me if every hookup leaves me feeling used after.
So obviously, I can’t tell him in this way. I know how boys are, and I know this would shatter his ego and change our relationship forever.
The other thing is, I don’t want to lie to him. I want to tell him the complete truth. To me, it feels more disrespectful to placate him and lie to him about this.
When he asks me if he’s the best, I’ve been telling him that I don’t compare past partners (which I don’t typically do), and that I love getting intimate with him. Which leads to more probing questions which I do my best to dodge.
I’m unsure of what the best way to give him an honest answer is.