I recently travelled with one of my closest friends, K and one of her friends that I’m not that close to, G but we go out and get along well. We went out of the city for a nice enjoyable day in a small village since the weather was really nice and we had no other plans.
We all travelled together in the past and things were fine, however G has not really been able to hold a stable job in quite a while due to anxiety and sometimes is struggling with money.. so many times when we go out I offered to pay for small things like drinks, her ticket once (cheap one), small restaurant meals, a manicure… and my friend probably did too.
She would always say ‘next time on me’ or saying she would pay back (e.g. for the ticket) – but that never happens and I kind of realized she would never return the favor or anything similar since she’s never improving her situation. I’m not gonna lie, it did bother me but I let it go considering her situation and the fact that overall it’s not that much money.
However, this time while in this village and just having a drink outside a bar, she started telling us how she really wanted to travel and see her boyfriend who lives in another country about 3h flight away and how he’s always the one to visit and it’s not fair on him.. also said she spent her last money for the month on this outing instead of securing a ticket to see her bf.
She asked my friend if she can borrow from her but my friend returned back to studying recently and quit her job and said she can’t afford to spend anything extra for at least a week. She then asked me if I could borrow her the money (this ticket is really not cheap, could have a day out with that money) and that she will pay me back first thing when she gets her salary.
That really struck a nerve and I said no. Both G and my friend looked at me in shock and asked why, to which I couldn’t answer without probably creating a drama.. and I just said ‘don’t wanna lend money to anyone’.
At that moment they both changed their attitude and G was having this disgusting face put on for a while. We later pretended that discussion didn’t exist but after we got home my friend K told me I’m evil for not lending her the money because I’m working and not in <too much> financial distress.
How am I wrong?