My 28F first time being intimate with my boyfriend 27M wasn’t intimate at all.
I’ve been dating my boyfriend now for over 2 months now. Everything has been perfect so far. He’s genuinely so kind and loving. He sees a future with me, and I with him.
He always gives 100% effort in our relationship and it’s been such a breath of fresh air because I was in two bad relationships before him (but have done 3 years of therapy since and worked through all of that).
Imagine my disappointment when we slept together for the first time last week and it was anything but intimate.
I’ve been feeling so sad since and realized what might’ve made me feel this way. We’ve had a few sleepovers before this but he’s always respectful and never initiated anything.
This time was no different until we woke up in the morning and I could feel he was hard and we started kissing, but not for very long.
He asked if I wanted to f and I very much did. So we undress and it was just immediate penetration. No more kissing, no touching, he didn’t touch me or anything.
We did missionary for a minute and he said he was trying not to finish. We switched to doggy and he finished and then we showered/went on with our day.
Since I’ve had time to think about this, I think I feel so empty because we didn’t kiss, no foreplay, just plain penetration and he didn’t ask if I came or anything.
His behavior since has been the same. Same amount of attention/communication, but I’m concerned that this is a red flag because I haven’t seen any others so far.
Is this normal? Did he not want to kiss because of morning breath? What should I do? Anyone else go through this? Will it get better?
Positive/constructive feedback is appreciated!!