My girlfriend (33f) is getting an abortion. I think its to hide the fact that she’s cheating on me (34m).
I’ve been in a relationship with my current girlfriend for 10 years (i think at this point were basically married in all but name).
We’ve been trying to have kids for the past few years unsuccesfully, including one attempt that ended with a stillborn child.
We took a break from trying after that but resumed about 7 months ago. Im not infertile, but do have a genetic disease that makes it unlikely.
Two weeks ago my girlfriend tested positive on her pregnancy test. Things have been rough between us recently but I was so happy because i thought this was both a chance to patch up our relationship and for me to become a father.
Today she told me she was going to get an abortion.
Like i said, the past few months have been rough and, to be frank, i think she’s cheating on me with a coworker. Ever since things got rough she’s been spending a lot of time with him, including going on “platonic” date nights most saturdays.
I think i kind of knew all along, but we were still trying for a child so i ignored it. I think the abortion is because the kid is his and she doesnt want me to find out.
She says its because she cant deal with another stillborn but then what were we trying for for the past 7 months? She knew how important this was to me so why an abortion? Why not just let me raise the kid if she doesn’t want it? I’d be happy to do that but no.
I’ve been thinking of telling the coworker. Im sure its his and he has the right to know. I also thought of telling her parents – theyve been rooting us on the whole time but i dont know. Im so lost.
This was supposed to be a happy time in my life and i feel like everything ive been working for has been taken away from me.
Any advice on how to handle this is appreciated. She has an appointment for the abortion on friday.