I (m45) have been mentoring this girl (f27) for 5 years. Yesterday was my last day in this job and she offered to hook up with me, which I took.
I think it was a thank you gift from her as she’s always contributed her success to my guidance.
Yesterday, the office had a farewell dinner for me as I was a long-time employee with them. She was the last to leave and we had a long conversation where she kept repeating if there is anything she can do to thank me for what I’ve done.
At some point it became obvious she meant f-ing as she’s became flirty and I responded as well and she invited me back to her apartment.
Both of us are single and it was consensual. At the moment it felt passionate and beautiful but the guilt started to creep in when I left as I have always viewed her as my daughter over the past 5 years.
I don’t think I will see her again as I am taking another job overseas. Was it wrong of me to accept? And how can I get over this feeling?
Netizens’ comments
- It’s because you feel responsible for her, and you feel like you took advantage of that trust. Most likely, she has an unhealthy view of father figure type men and interest and that also will make you feel a little gross.
- If it felt wrong, it was probably wrong (for you personally)
- Even though you are leaving, the issue is she may still reach out to you in the future for like a letter of recommendation or may even reach out to you for a job. How are you going to react then? Are you going to feel obligated to do it because she slept with you? Could she use this as leverage against you in the future in some way? There are a long list of reasons why you should have declined.
At the end of the day, it could have been innocent. She probably was attracted to you for a while but didn’t initiate because she works closely with you. Now that you are leaving, she probably thought that was a better time than never.
Obviously pay close attention to the post nut clarity as it will guide you in the future. I think this sort of thing is akin to close friends sleeping together but then one of them regrets it afterwards because they felt they f-ed their sibling.