As a girlfriend, would you want your boyfriend to support you or criticise you in whenever you do something? Don’t get me wrong, this only applies when he thinks you did something questionable.
Maybe it’s something that he doesn’t agree with, but it’s something that you think you didn’t do wrong.
For example? When somebody threw something at you and you got angry; or when the aunties/uncles and even middle-aged adults try to cut your queue when entering the MRT and you gave them a death stare; or when you get annoyed while walking up the escalator on the right side, and a couple stopped walking to talk to each other?
The said boyfriend then told you off and said that you are too narrow-minded.
Was I wrong? Should my boyfriend be supporting me or criticising me?
Here are what netizens think:
- What’s wrong with having zero tolerance against inconsiderate and self-entitled individuals? I would publicly shame them likewise. Sounds like your bf is the narrow-minded one.
- It really depends loh. Different people have different levels of tolerance ma. If he criticises you for being narrow-minded, you roll your eyes at him too loh.
- i agree everyone has different views. but I think your bf can have a better approach rather than criticising you. for instance if you’re being thrown things at.. he can be more concern if you’re hurt. if some aunty cut your queue. he can acknowledge that they are at fault but don’t get mad at them. they are not worthy of you getting mad. ( the point is .. yes boyfriend need not agree with you in everything. but should care about girlfriend’s feeling)
- For all of those things, I get annoyed too but I don’t ever lose my temper. If you tend to overreact, he is not wrong for disagreeing with your reaction, but it sounds like he might communicating things in a way that feels depowering. I would pick “criticism in a supportive manner”.
- Maybe it is the way your bf has put the message across that is off putting to you… maybe you would like to share with your bf how you like to receive feedback on ur behaviour