How do I (23F) get my boyfriend (28M) to be rougher with me in bed?
I want to start off by saying I have communicated with my boyfriend on countless occasions telling him how rough I like things in bed (or out of bed).
My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 2 years now, and he is okay in bed..but what really gets me off is when someone is extremely rough with me.
He’s more gentle with me during and prefers being passionate over being rough and dirty in bed
I like to be used, played with, slapped, and would even go far enough to say i like bondage-esque intimacy (well really to be tied up and what not).
I’ve voiced to him what I like, told him about a few of my fantasies and even asked about his fantasies.
But when we have intercourse he’s rarely rough with me, and when he is it’s not to the extent that i’ve voiced that i like, it’s always the same almost vanilla passionate PIV that he likes…
It’s pretty boring honestly, i try to get him going by talking dirty while we’re fucking but it doesn’t really work.
we also don’t get intimate enough as is (yes i’ve communicated this concern with him as well) so on top of not having enough intercourse and feeling frustrated i feel like my needs/wants aren’t being met.
What else can i do/say to get him to be rougher with me?