My (23F) boyfriend (27M) sent me a breakup message so he could cheat
My bf was travelling for work. He travels often, almost weekly. I don’t know wtf just happened or how he’s justifying it. I’m genuinely going crazy. We’ve been together for 10 months.
We had a bit of a fight before he left. It was about work, also. Last Friday, I received a weird text from him saying we’re done as a couple.
He said it was over and we could talk about handling the breakup once he’s home. I was startled. Wtf just happened, I had no idea.
I waited for him to come back, and it turns out he broke up with me on the spot so he could sleep with another girl at the hotel without technically “cheating”.
He’s telling me that it’s my choice to leave the relationship or stay, but we have to settle our differences if I choose to stay.
He’s acting so normal like nothing happened. Is he making sense or am I just crazy?
Netizens’ comments
- I worry that you are even questioning what you should be doing here. Whatever direction this man is headed, turn the opposite and get moving.
- You should keep him as an ex. He has no regard for you.
- He is a manipulative a-hole. He is acting normal in the hopes that you will be the one thinking you did wrong and then coming back to him, begging him to get back together. You do have a choice and since it seems you have some self respect, your choice should be to leave.
Also, if you choose to stay, settling the differences really just mean he gets to tell you what will happen going forward. He will constantly invalidate your feelings about this as “I did not cheat, we were broken up”. - Most relationship issues are difficult, this is not. Break up with him.
- The man’s logic is messed up! So, if you stay together is he just going to send you a breakup text every time he wants to sleep with someone else?