My girlfriend told me she wanted $4,000 a month after marriage I was taken aback.
We had been dating for five years and up until now, she had never mentioned wanting money in exchange for her services.
We both had decent jobs and she had always been independent, so I couldn’t understand why she was now insisting on this.
The conversation started out as a discussion about our plans for the future.
We had just gotten engaged and we were in the process of discussing our wedding plans. I had been talking about the financial aspects of the wedding, when she suddenly said that after the wedding, she didn’t plan to continue working, cooking, or cleaning. She proposed that instead she should be paid $4,000 a month for her services.
I was shocked and couldn’t believe what I was hearing.
I had always known that my girlfriend was independent and self-sufficient, so why was she now insisting on being paid for her domestic duties? I asked her to explain her reasoning and she said that she wanted to be compensated for her time and energy. She said that if she was expected to take on all the domestic duties, she deserved to be paid for it.
I understand where she is coming from, but I don’t think that money should be the main motivation for doing something. I think it’s important for couples to be supportive of each other and to do their part in the relationship without expecting monetary compensation. I also don’t think it’s fair to expect one partner to do all the cooking and cleaning while the other doesn’t. It should be a shared responsibility.
I tried to explain this to my girlfriend, but she was unmovable in her stance. She said that if I was unwilling to pay her, then she would not take on any domestic duties in our marriage. I didn’t want to put her in a situation where she felt she had to choose between her independence and her relationship, so I decided to try and work out a compromise.
I suggested that we both contribute to the domestic duties in our marriage and that she would receive a small monthly stipend to cover her expenses.
Guess what, She said no and talk as if she is a princess from a fairy tale.
Can anyone tell me what to do? It’s like flushing 5 years of my life down the toilet if I broke up with her.