I have recently moved into my bf house. He is a divorcee and has taken over the matrimonial home following divorce with his wife.
However, when I moved in I found it weird that he still keeps pictures of himself and his wife openly on tables and walls. I asked him about it and he just shrugged it off as keeping it for memory sake of his life journey.
So I also realized that everything in the house including bed and sofa has not been changed since when they moved in. I am not sure if anyone feels that its okay. But for me its NOT OKAY not to change the bed or at least the mattress. I do not like that idea that he and his wife had been sleeping on the mattress for years and now I have to sleep on the same mattress. I deserve a new mattress isnt it?
I told him about it and even offered to buy a new one to replace! But he just said he doesnt want to change as its not spoilt. Seriously right now I am thinking if he had even gotten over his ex-wife or not? I do not want to be in a situation when one day he decides to tell me he cant forget his ex-wife and asks me to leave the house.
Here are what netizens think:
- u r being sensitive lah. ayo…. Man only need food and X. the rest, man don’t care.
- Total Red Flag , If he doesn’t change then you should.
- U wana change a perfectly working condition bed just for u?? Mattress maybe I can understand but bed frame too??
- As for his pics with his ex wife, ask him to digitalised it and keep those pics in an album, no need to display it cos u are new mistress of the house. Displaying it like showing no respect for you. Ask him if he likes it if you openly display pics of your ex bf and you together openly in the house you guys are living in.
- But the bed frame ah… Let it stay la. Sibei sayang to throw away when it’s still good and fine. So many homeless people out there want a mattress also can’t afford, let alone a bed frame!
- His ex wife also used your bf’s Didi and lips too. Change them too.