My bf and I have been together for two years, and since I graduated from uni in May we’ve been long-distance.
We can only see each other when we fly to each other and that means paying for air tickets.
We were planning to visit each other at the end of the month; since he has better opportunities to visit me during the school year, we decided I should go visit his hometown at the end of the summer.
The problem is that this trip is going to be pretty expensive for me… $1100 in flights, and I’m losing another ~$600 by taking that week off of work, so it’s costing me $1.7K total. I don’t have tons of expenses, but I’m going to school full time starting in August, with very limited opportunity to make money.
I don’t have much in savings and I’m trying to save more for moving out/the future/undergrad student loans. Long story short, spending a thousand is a big deal for me, and I’m worried about it.
Every visit to each other means buying air tickets and sometimes we will plan where there is a discount in the flights.
My boyfriend, who is in a much better financial situation than me, generously offered to help pay for my ticket. But for some reason, I feel like I shouldn’t accept his money.
But I was pretty ready to demand him to pay for it if he never offer to pay cause he makes $100 more than me, I know this sounds contradicting but hear me out.
I’m pretty aware of the difference between our finances, and i don’t know, it just feels kinda like charity for him to have to pay for my travel expenses.
He doesn’t really understand my concerns about this and the cost in general… to him, it’s money spent on something valuable to both of us, and since he has more money he should pay for some of the visits.
I just hate having to be a charity case. It makes me feel even worse about being so behind financially, to the point where I’d almost rather suck it up and pay for everything.