My boyfriend BMI is 36.7.
We have dated for 4 years and since then he has gained over 20kg.
Im always getting upset at his unhealthy lifestyle which he does not see it as a problem. We also always having arguments about it as he finds me very controlling and difficult when I tried to get him to change or modify some of these lifestyle habits.
He likes food and love to try many varieties of foods. However he doesnt like to exercise, which resulted in the significant weight gain. Covid-19 exacerbated the issue as he began to work from home. He does not usually leave the house and tends to be infront of the computer most of the time. Even when he is out, he tends to grab around.
While he did tried several methods to lose weight, it was all shortlived (perhaps at most 2 weeks). He ordered some meal plans but after a while he felt that the meals were too boring as he tried almost everything. Therefore he gave up after a while. He also tried fasting but he does not stick to it; maybe managed to do so for 3 days.
He also order food delivery everyday instead of going out to get food. Usually these platforms has a min spending. So he would have to order more than what he needed. He has a habit of drinking at least one sweet drink per day m. When I tried to restrict this to once every 2 days, it was tough. Could only try to encourage him to do so when we meet, which are weekends.
He also has the habit of sleeping late at night, like 3/4/5 a.m. Sometimes I would try to get him to do some exercise or even sleep earlier but he felt that I am controlling and naggy. I work in the healthcare sector and I witnessed how disastrous chronic illnesses could be. Stroke, heart attacks and amputation are some of the very common consequences. Many of the patients also told me that they regretted not taking care of their health better. I tried to get him to have a health screening check-up in hope that the health result may be able to motivate him to do something about his lifestyle but he has been postponing it for a year.
He does not see all these as much of an issue. Not sure how to encourage or help him with this without getting into argument or him thinking that I am naggy.