I am here to seek advice about the psychology of girls. It is a long story. I was in a relationship with this girl three years ago, when I was a fresh graduate from NUS and started my first job, and she was a final-year high school student in my home country, going to study overseas in a Western country (for our background, we are not Singaporeans, and are from an Asia-Pacific country). Our relationship finished several months after she travelled overseas.
In fact, we did not have any conflict. She was the one who started ignoring my messages, and as it was a long-distance relationship, I had no choice but to finish it after a few weeks of awkwardness. After that, I just simply moved on; however, right after we stopped keeping contact, I noticed a significant change in her mind and behaviour (it was all based on my observation on social media). Previously, she was an energetic girl with dark brown skin.
She was a kind of person who can make friend with everyone, had a great sense of humour, and actively participated in a lot of co-curricular activities. Her posts and photos on social media attracted a lot of likes and comments, and she also enthusiastically interacted with friends online. However, after we stopped keeping contact, she seemed to change a lot, both physically and mentally. Until now, to some extent, I can say that the change is quite extreme.
1/ She follows a lot of groups/pages about make-up, beauty, cosmetic, clothes.
Especially, she follows many groups/pages which give advices to girls (the main ideas are sth like the importance of virgin, girls should never have s*x before marriage, girls should be beautiful and wait for ‘Mr. Right’ instead of being active in a relationship, and ‘Mr. Right’ will do everything for the girl, and so on).
2/ Her skin became brighter and pale, and her hair became softer and unnatural. She always wears long, colourful and vintage dresses (instead of casual clothes such as jeans and T-shirt).
To easily imagine, you can think of Western women in late 19th / early 20th century, like in Gone with the wind, and Titanic.
3/ On social media, her interaction with people become less enthusiastic. Her replies to others comments seem to be careful and distant, which is a sharp contrast to her humorous, friendly and energetic behaviour in the past. Gradually, less people interact with her on social media.
4/ Despite the less activeness on social media, she starts practicing to have a Youtube channel, and an Instagram about cooking. However, they do not last long. Overall, the whole story was in three years ago.
I stopped thinking about it for a long time and also have experiences with several other girls after that. However, I recently got an offer to study in the same city with her (in that Western country). Hence, I start remembered about the past and I think of contacting her again. To be honest, I really loved her personality in the past when we was in relationship; however, I am confused about her new personality.
My post is to seek advices and explanations i.e. what could be the reasons of her change in personality, what does it mean, and what should I do to deal with it. Thanks a lot!