This happened 8 months ago. Also just wanted to note that we are no longer together, i just wanted to share this because I can now laugh about it.
So let me just say that I know that going through your partners phone is wrong and that you should always trust your significant other.
Here is what happened
So it’s probably about 12 AM and my boyfriend had fallen asleep. I was on my phone originally until I saw his and got this really bad gut feeling like something was wrong. Now I will say I’m not the most secure person and that I do have a lot of anxiety due to past relationships but honestly this wasn’t just plain anxiety it’s like my intuition was trying to tell me something.
I decided to look through his twitter account just because I knew he had a secret account that he briefly mentioned to me when we first started dating. He never let me see it. I didn’t even know the name. Honestly I was just looking through the tweets which were him venting and that was all.
His timeline was no different just random accounts nothing suspicious. At this point I start scolding myself for doing that because there was nothing. Honestly felt disappointed in myself. I was going to tell him what I had done and own up to it because of how guilty I felt.
Then I remembered the search feature. I felt like I wasn’t going to find anything anymore but looked anyways. Boy what I saw.
I see an account pop up and i didn’t understand at first until I realized. It was a f-ing ‘adult’ account. Like of a specific woman. This woman looks nothing like me. I could just tell from the profile picture I didn’t even want to click it I was so sick to my stomach. (Adult films is one of the boundaries I set in my relationship early on. My boyfriend agreed with me. I don’t feel like getting too much into why as this isn’t truly that relevant just know it’s a boundary lol)
Anyways it wasn’t just that account…like he had searches of “bj” and other stuff I can’t really remember but I felt like crying and did. I had seen enough so I shut his phone off and I felt so much anger I woke him up and decided to confront him.
He ended up crying hysterically so much so that I had to calm him down. He said he was sorry and that he doesn’t remember when he watched, but knew that it was not recent. That was really a lie because he had just gotten this new phone like 2 months prior.
I never told him where I found it and I asked how he even knew what to look up because it was a specific persons account. He started saying, “you know the websites.”
At this point i was so angry because that meant he did it several times on several platforms, I didn’t even know what to say.
So anyways I realized that he probably had been watching the whole relationship and lying about it.