Is it a red flag if you gf doesnt seem to be interested in spending time with your family but expects you to spend time with their family? Family is a big thing to both of us.
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I’ve been spending alot of time with her family driving them out, joining them for birthday celebrations, dinner etc. My family doesn’t do much of these events but whenever I ask her to join us she would always say “I let you know again maybe I wanna spend time with my family ” when in fact she has been spending a lot of time with them on weekdays (she doesn’t go out much) and Sundays.
I feel like she’s being so selfish.
Here are what netizens think:
- Just level up to her. Don’t force her to come. But instead you force yrself not to be involved with her family activities too much . If she make a scene you said I have family too. Rub it in.
- Yes it is indeed a red flag. Observe other aspects of her behavior and see whether it is consistent. Then decide if you should continue with the relationship.
- I won’t call it a red flag. Did you even tell her that you think she’s selfish for spending all her free time with her family and none for yours? Sometimes people need to be blatantly told in the face to know what’s on your mind. Its only a red flag if she wants everything that evolves the relationship to be her way or the high way. Find a middle ground for this as this will dictate the future of your relationship should you ever marry her.
- If your values don’t align, then nicely break it off and find someone else whose values align with yours.
- It’s normal lol. Ur family is urs. Her family is hers and urs. U can find new gf and it end up the same 99% of the time.