Just a rant, but maybe also advice:
Emotionally cheated on my ex, not proud of it and it’s something I learned the hard way, my fault.
But after the breakup, things I found out (happened during our rs):
1. Asking friends to send her pictures of cute guys when they were overseas
2. Asking friends for other guys @ to follow
3. Telling one of her friend that she would sit on another guy’s lap if she were the friend (context: friend was alone in a room w/ some “cute” guy)
4. Initiating to catch up with an ex fwb without telling me (I didn’t even know this guy existed in her social circle)
5. Saying she would cheat on me to a friend (probably joking but insensitive topic to joke about)
6. Had plans to wear slutty dresses to go look at guys knowing I wouldn’t agree
And she’s painting me as the bad guy and that she has done nothing wrong throughout the rs. Do I confront her about this? Or just sit back and let myself be seen as the AH.
Here are what netizens think:
- The older you get, the less you will care what others say about you. The older you get, the less you will care about digging up old wounds and unpleasant memories. Just move on and stop caring what comes out of her mouth. People who listen to gossip and make judgements about you are not worth your attention anyway.
- Let it go… let it go…. Don’t be petty about who’s right who’s wrong liao… she is playful, you are not loyal too… Just believe that Karma will do its job… and you, you also learnt sth from this rs… Don’t just grow older , grow wiser too … next time, find someone worthy of your love and treat her well… that’s it. Good luck to you bro
- It’ll be an endless “he said, she said” thing. Let it go. Those who knows you knows you.
- It’s not easy but you will have to spot the subtle changes in her behaviour e.g. how she reacts around your friends if it’s more and more flirtatious, or if she starts to dress more and more promiscuous overtime.
- Clearly you delibrately ignored those signs until it was too late…and you cannot blame the woman for doing such after you had emotionally cheated on her…can you blame her for still hanging onto green flags as opposed to ‘Mhmm, these were all the signs that I had missed, what didn’t I notice them earlier?’ and wall herself away from you.