Boyfriend calls me a s1ut for going out with others during a break – what should I do?
I’ve been in a rs for 5 years since 2017. My very first bf since I was 18 years old. But we had a break up in June 2022 cuz he kept comparing me with his ex from like 5 years ago, and I finally had had enough and decided to end the rs.
1 day after the break up, in a haste to fill up the void and emptiness, trying to forget him, I downloaded a dating app for the first time just to try my luck but with no intentions, just to pass time and to fill my void of suddenly being alone and single again… (looking back, yes regret doing this cuz I was just ‘meeting people up’ just to fulfill my boredom and to see if there’s anyone out there. But at the same time, still feel sad and crying at nights non-stop.
Yes using people to forget him was f up, I agree. Won’t recommend. Even when I go on the date, I can’t help to myself compare and realise my bf even tho yeah he love to compare me with his ex, he’s a very good man and very gentlemanly towards me… he understood me. I begin to realise maybe he’s the only one that can understand me. Like they said other guys would have left by now.
So 1 week later after the break up, he called me crying saying he regret comparing me with his ex and noticed that I downloaded a dating app 1 day after the break up. He knew that I downloaded cuz he had my passwords linked to his phone (even tho I swear I’d deleted and log out of my accounts everywhere but he still can relogin?), he was so disappointed that I could download dating app right the day after the break up… I’m like yeah but what I do after the break up has nth to do with u… plus how come u can still log in my accounts??
Then after crying to each other, we know we still love each other and got back together. But the problem is now, he likes to call me names saying I’m “Impure and unchaste” saying that “You’re no longer pure like last time when we first dated, now you’ve gone on 2 dates with 2 guys after we broke up, means doesn’t matter sleep or not still impure”, “Imagine we married and we happen to see them, they can say I dated her, I can’t have this for a future wife”
Mind you, it was just 2 dates with people I could care less about and use them to forget him. Ewww never I sleep with anybody other than him. yuck. My bf is the only guy I’ve ever been with! And now the fact that he’s calling me a s1ut or impure is really making me crazy just cuz I go on 2 dates AFTER we broke up!!!
He said for his own personal standards, he’s very strict and for a wife, he only wants a pure girl with no past boyfriends or even Zero bodycount. Okay, granted my bodycount is only ONE and It’s HIM. To hear this constant narrative that I’m impure and a s1ut really makes me sick and sad. Seriously a slut with ONLY ONE BODYCOUNT?! He should go out more and see other girls…
I told him “Okay u can go f off and find your Pure girl with ZERO body count in this day and age! I give up AND the reason we broke up is also cuz u kept comparing me with ur ex”
What should I do? He’s my First love but he’s making me out to be some impure s1ut. Wth.