What to do when SO keeps talking about work?
My SO, got a job a year ago after graduating from school. We were excited and I was super proud of her. At the start, she does talk about work from time to time, which was ok to me.
But recently, she’s been talking about work all the time, like all the time. When we’re having meals (we only meet once a week for a meal), sometimes she’ll talk about work, sometimes even texting her colleagues (who was working), when she’s not even working.
Asked her why, she said cause the colleague wasn’t sure of some procedure and texted her. She complains about it but replies anyway.
One day she realised that all she thought of was work, even on weekends and when she’s not working and acknowledged that it wasn’t healthy for her, because she constantly feels worried, anxious about work matters.
I told her ya I noticed too and it was really unhealthy, and we agreed that on her part, she’ll do her best to stop thinking about work after hours, and i’ll do my part to remind her to stop thinking about work when she starts to think/talk about work.
It worked for a few days, but back to normal after a few days. Even after I told her to not talk about work, the next thing you know, work.
I can tell that whenever she talks about work – ranting or just talking about it, it makes her feel less stressful, and I really want to support her.
But honestly, now whenever she talks about work, my mind just completely turns off and I just go to standby mode.
Those with partners who keeps on talking about work non-stop, how do you deal with it? How do you support your partner in this context?