My girlfriend told me that she tested me by cancelling a date when we first started to go out. It was the date when we were kinda planning to hook up for the first time. For context, She lives in town area while I have a 40 min drive.
She waited until I was halfway to town before cancelling. I remember texting her as I got into the car and telling her I was on my way and she still waited until I was halfway to Orchard.
She had a lot of opportunities to cancel before I had driven half an hour. The date being cancelled sucked but she told me she was feeling sick and I told her it was okay and told her to get better. I had also asked her if she wanted me to come over and she said she didn’t want to.
She told me that it was a big moment for our relationship as she found that I am very considerate but honestly I get why she wanted to test me but I really am angry about the way she tested me. She had no consideration for my time and effort. it was as if she really wanted to inconvenience me to see how I would react.
I told her that it was pretty inconsiderate to wait until I had driven halfway to cancel and she had been really inconsiderate in the way she tested me.
She apologized half-heartedly and then said it was not a big deal and it has been 4 months. I told her it was a big deal to me and we had an argument about it. I feel bad afterwards cause it feels really small thing to get mad about.
Here are what netizens think
- Your GF is absolutely garbage, if she has to test it means she is unsure. If she is unsure why did she get official with you.
- I really don’t think anyone should do these kinds of ‘relationship tests’, because enough things will happen on their own to test a relationship anyway. You will get sick, you will get tired, you will face stressful times. No need to make up tests for that when those things already happen.
- People normally do test are insecure and people that will cause problems in relationships so please stay away.