GF PROPOSES TO BF AFTER SUPPORTING HIM FOR 10 YEARS & PAID FOR HIS STUDIES, GOT REJECTED

I proposed to my boyfriend of 10 years and he rejected me

I am absolutely heartbroken right now. I (36f) proposed to my boyfriend (35m) of 10 freaking years and he said he doesn’t want that kind of commitment and “marriage is not his thing”.

I just don’t understand this. We’ve built business together, I paid for his education to help him start his career which very successful now, we were about to buy a house, I supported him all these years, and now it turned out all this was a lie.

I am moving out with our 2 dogs in 2 weeks and I just can’t stop crying. Our relationship was so great, I don’t understand why this is happening, was he just playing me all these years?

Netizens’ comments

1. In 10 years yall never discussed marriage?
2. I’m not into the institute of marriage one bit, and if I were to be proposed to today I’d say no. That doesn’t mean I don’t love and adore my partner and want a relationship with them, it just means I don’t want a marriage. We’ve discussed this many times throughout our relationship, over 10 years you must have known how he felt about the matter. Did you think surprising him would change his mind? And now that he hasn’t changed his mind he’s the bad guy??
3. You thought after 10 years he was all of a sudden going to want to get married?
4. “Our relationship was great.” Sounds like he was happy with the dynamic, you tried to change the dynamic, he declined, now you’re devastated. This is, unfortunately, a topic that probably should have been broached a while ago.
5. I have seen this a few times where long term relationships break up because one person doesn’t want to marry and they have ended up with that person being married a year later or so to someone else. It wasn’t that they didn’t want to get married but they didn’t want to marry their current long term partner. I would move on and find someone that would commit to me in your position.