My girlfriend feels uncomfortable with interacting with my family because my dad does not acknowledge her when she visits (won’t even look at her in the eye, even when she calls him / tries to talk to him).
It’s her second time meeting him and he does not reply at all too.
I think it is because he is an introvert and hence I think it’s alright for him to do that. I did not say anything because he is an elder and I cannot change him because that’s his character.
Also, my family speaks dialects most of the time because they are used to it. Whilst my girlfriend does not understand it. Hence she does not understand most of our conversations.
My family doesn’t exactly include her in conversations so she feels left out. For context, my family can speak and understand mandarin as well.
But I think she should try to integrate in instead of my family accommodating to her.
How do I make her see my point of view?
Here is what netizens think:
- If u go to her house and her family treat u as such, how will u feel? Dont so self centered can? Since your family already kinda not communicating with her, what she needs is you to be there with her, supporting her. U can be the translator, teach her also. Asking her to make effort is not the way. Please try harder.
- From your post, we can easily tell that you are very self-centered and immature. This relationship will not work if you do not step up soon. Give and take is the way to go.
- If you are worth her effort, she will try to integrate as you wish. But I guess, she is not worth enough for you to try harder and be on her side. And I feel sorry for her.
- Simi? She’s already trying liao (by your own account she tried to make the effort to speak to your dad multiple times, despite not getting a response, and isn’t speaking more only because your family dw to use Mandarin), if you want a connection between her and your family, you + your family should be meeting her halfway also.