My (24M) Girlfriend (25F) Wants Something I Don’t Think I Can Give Her In Bed
Hey, first time posting in here. After about a 2 year stint of not having intercourse/being out of the dating scene to focus on myself mentally and in my career I met someone who I care for deeply.
Somebody who in the month span that I’ve known her I care for deeper than any previous relationship that lasted much longer and took much longer to get to the level we are at.
Emotionally we connect incredibly well. Value wise we are very similar and have no issues. Even in bed we don’t have “issues” because we both have a lot of fun, however, I feel (and know) I am not giving her exactly what she wants.
So far in our history I’ve made her climax multiple times so that isn’t the issue, though it is not consistent and I am working to improve on that.
What really gets her off is rough pounding. Hitting it as hard as possible. She wants this for 5-7 minutes and I’m not able to achieve this.
Every other partner (8 others in the past) enjoyed some of that but not the entire time. We would spend some time on foreplay, then some slow intimate acts, a little bit of roughness, a few position changes, back and forth and variance in speed/hardness.
My girlfriend on the other hand really just wants me to pound the entire time. In your opinion, does this make us incompatible for the long term if I don’t think I will be able to achieve this? Could I eventually achieve this? I could tell once or twice that she was “upset” or kind of disappointed that I wasn’t able to do what she wanted and afterwards she discussed it with me. She thinks I can improve on this but I have this doubt in my head that I can’t get to that point.
My main issue is that going that rough and fast makes me cum ALOT quicker than if I switch up the pace. What really hit me was when she mentioned that a previous partner was able to maintain this for 10 plus minutes of continuous rough pounding. Again, is this something I COULD improve on? Are there solutions to this in your opinion?