Hi all, I’m looking for some advice because I’m really stressed about this. Me (f) and my bf (m) have been dating for more than 3 years, but we’ve never smash before.
We initially didn’t do it cuz we were very worried that I’ll get pregnant if the condom breaks/pill doesn’t work what not. So my bf said the best way is just not doing it at all.
Before you guys start, I do believe my bf is physically attracted to me, we’ve done some physical stuff but just didn’t reach like the smashing prt yet that’s all. He’s also very physically affectionate with me, would always hug/kiss me that kind of thing.
I’ve been trying to convince him to at least do it once or twice. Now with modern inventions I believe we can be very careful but he just won’t budge.
I feel very morally dispirited and it has caused me to question if maybe I’m just not what he wants in a partner. I’m not looking to find another guy to smash or that kind of thing, but could anyone please give me some advice for this?
Thanks in advance.
Here are what netizens think:
- Its rare to find guys/girls that are willing to wait till marriage. It’s very precious so cherish it.
- I think as a couple you guys need to talk about it … because it’s between you and him… and really if you going to last long in this relationship I believe you got to know what you and your partner wants …maybe he does want to do it after marriage… what is the specific reason I think you have to ask him yourself… we as audience are not able to give such advice … If there is a specific reason why he feels he only wants to do it after marriage… it’s because it’s his decision and I think you got to respect his decision… because my friend from church also against S before marriage…
- What is there to be afraid of if you”re married? Make it Legal. Go to ROM. Then start smashing. No one cares if you hold yr wedding banquet with yr kid in tow knowing you have tied the knot.
- Time and place for everything. One of the healthiest thing a couple can do is respect each other’s boundaries. If either one is not ready, don’t pressure them to have S. Maybe he has seen/ know someone/ is himself an accident baby, and do not wish for that kinda pressure for you. Maybe it’s religion. Or maybe he is just not ready, plain and simple. So, respect boudaries, talk about it, ask him when is he ready. Come to an agreement for the both you, which you are happy and he is happy.