Where are the good guys at?
After a number of crappy relationships I really wonder if there are good guys out here in Singapore.
Or am I just so unlucky to always get treated badly (emotionally and mentally) by my boyfriends. Are the guys in Singapore not able to save money? Why am I always the one ending up having to pay for stuff or loaning them money?
Usually they only talk about marriage with me when I want to leave the relationship. But why would I want to marry an unstable guy? It’s just a life longer suffering if I do that.
I always try to overlook the fact that the guy doesn’t have much money at first, encourage him to work harder, earn more. But that doesn’t work at all. Aren’t they embarrassed that the girl has to pay for dates and transport all the time?
I want to eventually get married and start a family but no one has given me any sense of security to do that.
If there are any guys out there that are able to fulfil this, please step forward. All of us independent girls have been searching for you.
Here are what netizens think
- I thought bad boys are wanted and attractive,and good guys finish last. Why are you contradicting yourself by asking where are the good guys? You choose what you get LOL.
- When a guy is in his early 20s, he’s still building himself. Don’t expect too much. Better to look for a guy in his late 20s or early 30s.
- Your last sentence points to one of the causes of your problems… if you’re “independent”, then whichever guy you end up with (usually the wrong type) will eventually know he doesn’t need to step up. This is because you’re “independent”, and he doesn’t see any need to get better because there’s no one who he feels needs to depend on him.
You can be independent, but also be smartly dependent enough for the guy to step up and want to be better.