Hi all, in my late 20s now and with my current bf for a year plus or so and it’s getting really depressing. I don’t know why guys put in so much effort at the start only to act like this as the relationship progresses, literally only doing the bare minimum to keep the relationship alive. I have talked to him about this multiple times and it’s getting sooooo tiring. He always changes for awhile before reverting back to his usual self with work as an excuse.
Question is should I break up with him? I feel like almost all the guys are like this and it’s also very tiring to change bf so many times. I’m so lost as to whether should I give him more time to change or should I just be decisive and break up with him?
Guys if you see this and your girlfriend is complaining that you are not loving enough please take it seriously, maybe one day we will just give up and stop complaining and that’s it.
Here are what netizens think:
- If you changed bf so many times and the end result is still the same, the problem might lie with you. It’s the choices you made and you’re probably attracted to the same category of guys. Don’t believe in words but in actions, if a man truly loves you he will show you via his actions. You won’t even need to ask if you should break up.
- when you ask question like that it is already in your mind to break up.. perhaps you should ask yourself if you want to be with a guy like that instead..if you’re tired of relationships then stop for a while a year , two years or more and rebuild yourself then when u found a good one then you start again.
- Sounds like you are the problem, why don’t you stop complaining, manage your expectations and be the loving gf that your bf deserves
- Perhaps you could work with understanding each others love languages. How he wants to love you might not be how you want to be loved. How you WISH to be loved might not be how he shows as well. since you are at your 20s, you still got a wide selection to choose from but if you take too long, you will end up also selecting the remains from the lot. End of the day, red flags being red flags jus require both parties communication, listening, working tgther to make the relationship work. Lower your expectations will allow you to have less disappointment. Sometimes the things in your head are just nonsense and stop overthinking and keep yourself busy when you are away from each other. Love yourself as much as you would love to be loved. Dont hurt your mind. Also, have a btr approach when telling him things you like or dont like, no need for lady tantrums. After some time, the guy also sian.
- It’s obvious you are demanding and you expect every single one of them to abide to your orders, you sure your father not adolf ah?