It’s my 21st birthday, and all I wanted was to have all the people I love sharing space and good vibes. I provide everything, snacks, drinks, entertainment – all you had to do was show up.
I know you can’t do nice things for people and expect it to be reciprocated, but I have always gone above and beyond for my friends.
For example, a few years back before the travel restriction my friend expressed that all she wanted for her birthday was a trip. Without hesitation, I took it upon myself to book the Airbnb, communicate with our friends about travel plans, create an itinerary, and gather everyone at the airport for the perfect trip. I love her, and I wanted her birthday to be special without her having to lift a finger.
I would never ask my friends to do all that for me. I just asked for them to show up. One by one, my friends explained they each had something come up and they couldn’t make it to the party. I let everyone know a month and a half in advance when the party was going to be.
For context, nothing has happened to make people not want to come. Everyone just wound up finding something more important to do. At the very least, I expected them to ask me out to dinner a different night or something like that. But nothing. I feel like not even my closest friends truly care about me the way I care about them, and it’s breaking my heart.
I feel stupid writing this, but I just wanted to get it off my chest.
What netizens think:
- I just wanna say that you’re an awesome person. I always feel guilty when people plan awesome birthdays for me because I’m not the kind of person who can do the same, but they always tell me they just like me being there, so I try to make it if I can. So the people you invited.. especially for them not to ask for a rain check of some sort, that’s just… really mean. I’m really sorry. 🙁
- Wishing you a happy birthday belatedly. Please gift yourself with some new real friends. As for the existing ones I’d classify them as acquaintances and only put in the same amount of effort doing anything for them that they put into coming to your birthday spread.
- Spent my 29th birthday single, crying at a bar and alone. No one even called me. Spent my 30th birthday on a wonderful vacation with my hot new boyfriend, surrounded by friends and having the time of my life. Things will get better 🙂