How do I save my marriage
Hi everyone,
I got married 1+ years ago, we dated for more than 2.5 years before that.
I wanted to wait for xxx until marriage as I had previous bad experience in a relationship. Of course we did everything else except the deed.
However, we got into frequent fights which led to lesser ‘xxx’
After marriage we started having fights leading to less and less of physical intimacy. So obviously our intimacy reduced a bit..few months later we started mending our relationship and then had much lesser fights (like we used to have 1-2 small fights once in a while).
The problem is he is way too workaholic (works from 10am-2am at times because his team is in diff location) while I keep waiting to talk to him or to have some intimate moments.
Everytime we have some intimacy it is because I initiated it (sometimes even that doesn’t work and he just continues with office work).
Not to brag or anything but it isn’t that I am not pretty or attractive but he is just obsessed with his job/company.. every time his family or I suggest him to switch job he isn’t ready and doesn’t put in efforts.
His living habits are untidy
Above all this he is extremely lazy and untidy which pisses me off as I want the house to look like a couple’s home and not a bachelor pad..
I work with a big MNC too and sometimes end up having calls till late, so I naturally expect him to help out with cleaning.. he does do the dishes and all but the overall cleaning needed still needs help.. he loves throwing clothes on bed and that causes fights because he is no longer living with his friends but with his wife.
Feel like going out to cheat due to the lack of ‘xxx’
I feel stuck in this relationship to a point I do feel like I should look outside for my physical satisfaction at the least but I am immediately filled with guilt the moment that thought crosses my mind.. I just love him way too much to ever do that to him.
I just don’t know what to do…