A netizen shared how the whole side of her family doesn’t like her sister in law very much and feel like she is controlling her husband.
Here is the story:
“My whole side of the family have never liked my sister in law very much but we’re cordial. We often feel like she is controlling or manipulative towards us and her husband.
They only talk to us when they want something from us – previously, my dad has offered to do little tasks for them like put up a cupboard or help decorate, and they’ve left him to do all of it by himself.
Lately, they’ve been calling a lot saying their baby daughter wants to see us because she keeps talking about us and “you have to come down because we have a job list as long as my arm you need to do” – no please, no nothing, they expect us to just do all their plumbing and electricity and wood work (dad was a highly skilled engineer for 50 years and I’m an electromechanical technician).
We feel like they are demanding unpaid labour of us and trying to use the baby constantly talking about us (which I’m sure they’re fuelling by talking about us all the time to her) to emotionally manipulate us into thinking we’re obligated to go “for the baby”.
My sister in law told me flat out my long distance boyfriend she’s never met is “double-triple-quadruple-timing” me (who even says that??) and when I got upset and walked away she followed me with the baby saying she “missed her auntie” to try and defuse me, and neither my dad nor I can stand to be around her anymore.
I don’t have a close relationship with my brother in the first place, so how do I tell him we don’t want to visit him anymore without causing a massive blowup? I can’t keep dodging the question forever but I don’t want to be an -ss about it.”