How to politely tell my (f20) boyfriend (m25) he is terrible in bed
My boyfriend and I have been together for a year now. In most aspects is the best relationship of my life. He’s the nicest guy, he treats me amazingly, he’s handsome, hard-working and just the total package.
He does however fail in bed. Without being too gross, it’s not a size issue but it’s just bad. He’s not a very generous lover. I don’t hold this against him,
I love him, I just want to maybe like subtly hint at my dissatisfaction. Is there a smart way to do this?
I know some men take criticisms of their ability very personally and the last thing I want to do is hurt his feelings or come off as rude or abrasive.
I need a nice way to discuss this, any tips would be lovely
Netizen’s comments
Don’t be subtle – he’ll miss it, most likely. Sit him down and talk to him like an adult.
My ex- always used to say “If you can’t talk about it, you probably shouldn’t be doing it”. This is a significant part of your relationship, and may point to other red flags in the relationship, like not considering your needs/wants/preferences in other life decisions.
Set the boundary now, or you’re going to resent him more and more as time goes by.