A netizen shared how she was having an emotional meltdown and instead of comforting her, her boyfriend made her feel worse and they broke up.
Here is the story:
“So recently I had an emotional episode and ranted to my bf about it. Instead of comforting me, he just spilled hard truths about my attitude and was insensitive about my current emotions.
Of course I will flare up more and start hurling all the vulgarities and nasty comments about him, and so he does that in retaliation.
I understand that he never dated anyone prior to our rs but we have dated for 2 years leh. He said he doesn’t know how to comfort or help me in any way, there’s nth he can do for me.
Furthermore, he’s super insecure about my past rs with exes in which he felt that I gave them more love and attention to them than him.
But the thing is, what happened back in the past just stays there as it is. I do love and put in effort in our rs despite my fears from past experiences.
I did reassure him numerous times through words and actions and I NEVER cheated or flirted with any guys during our rs.
Anyways, in the end, I broke up with him and just feel hurt and left alone to struggle.
With the problems on my plate. I’m not too sure if I should reconsider patching up with him again when im in a calm state of mind and re-evaluate his personality
Questions for the readers:
1. is it really unreasonable to be mad at ur partner when he said he doesn’t know what to do and comfort u?
2. is it really inappropriate to keep bringing up ur partner’s past to make a comparison to ur current rs? because he keeps emphasizing the point that he receives lesser love and claimed that I missed my exes but the fact is I dont do that.
If so, then why would I agree to date him in the first place?
3. any suggestions to improve ourselves?”
Editor’s note: He sounds really insecure.