I have been together with my current boyfriend for more than 5 years, and we have recently move in together as well. Over the years, I find it more and more challenging to rekindle the love that I felt 5 years ago.
I always feel that he is the kind of person that must have the final say in everything, notwithstanding the fact that he may actually be right in some situations. Sometimes when I share some stuff with him, all I ever wanted was for someone to comfort me and agree with my perspective but all he ever does is to argue his perspective.
He is also always present but not present whenever we are together. Whenever couples go on date or go anywhere, for that matter, don’t they usually walk side by side? My boyfriend will usually just walk ahead in front of me (more than 10 steps) even though we may not particularly be rushing anywhere.
Whenever we sit down for a meal, he will rather be glued to his phone than have a conversation with me. Isn’t it kind of pathetic that there is nothing much we can talk about and he will rather send messages to his friends instead?
I know most couples nowadays are also glued to their phone when they go dating, but all I wanted was someone who can talk to me when we are eating. My boyfriend has also recently asked whether I am open to the idea of an open relationship because he has high drive, while I don’t really have that same level of energy. I like physical touch but sometimes, all I want is a cuddle or a hug.
Recently I met a guy whom I am afraid that I am slowly being attracted to. Even though we only met twice, he is kind of the opposite of my boyfriend. When we go out, he will try and engage me in proper conversations. When we go on a “date”, he will ensure that I am comfortable and will walk with me. He is also the caring type who will “chide” me for eating instant noodles and drinking bubble tea. We have been texting for more than 2 weeks now, but recently, he has also been replying me lesser (even though he explains his delayed replies). I am afraid that Im playing with fire but he’s really a nice guy.
Should I stick to the 5-year relationship given that we have invested so much time and effort together, or should I venture out to look for a man who will treat me like a princess?