Me (22F) and bf (26M) were attending to his family’s Christmas gathering at his brothers house.
We were going to play Mahjong and it is only my first few times going over to their place and i am not familiar with things.
Usually there is a drawer under the mahjong table that you can put your money etc and usually it can be pull out and put it back easily but i did not expect it will be hard to put it back and the rest of the family came to help.
At the point of time seeing everyone trying to fix my damage i felt so guilty and i tried to explain myself saying that “ i didn’t know it will be so hard to put back as usually it is easy to take out and put back “. It was at this moment my boyfriend raised his voice and tell me to just shut up in front of his entire family.
To be honest to me it meant more than just “ shut up “ but instead it makes me feel like i am being slapped and insulted infront of everyone .
At that point of time i was so upset that i went to one side , trying to calm myself down while sobbing for a good one hour and instead of anyone coming to comfort me , nobody spoke to me and everyone carried on with the mahjong session laughing and partying .
I felt like the entire family is teaming up against me and i feel like a clown for staying as nobody care how hurt i was . So i stand up and tell them that i am going off and left instead .
Afterwards my boyfriend did apologise to me and his brother texted him saying that what i did there was disrespectful to everyone because i left early. I know it is not right to just leave which is why i choose to sit one side to calm myself down but nobody actually bother to check if i am ok which is why i left . They might feel that it is just a “ Shut up” but to me it means alot and i am really hurt by it.
If we turn the story around if that day he slapped me instead and I stayed there crying for 1 hour and nobody bother to help or comfort me should i still stay throughout the gathering? If i stay yes i am being respectful to everyone but not to myself .
Am i wrong for leaving early? Will you have stayed if it is you?
Here are what netizens think:
- It is good you saw the true colour of your bf and his family members. Just imagine the worst may happen when both of you got married. It looks like your bf and family members have taken you for granted, and his family and mahjong session are more important than you. You should think seriously whether to continue the rs. GL
- I will storm out of the house. If that so-called bf dare to talk me over it, I will tell him straight to go fly kite. “How dare he!” and he better pray hard my father is not a MMA fighter.
- Wait, he shouted at you and YOU’RE the one who’s disrespectful for leaving? Girl, throw the whole man and his family away.