I started dating this 30 y.o guy about 10 months ago. He kept pursuing me for many months before us officially dated. His behaviour used to be incredibly strange. I thought maybe I’m just being paranoid due to all the hurt experienced during the past. Ignored all of my worries and still kept talking to him — started noticing things like him only being available after 8 pm.
He would randomly yell out while on the phone “I’M WITH MY SISTER”. Or say “I’m with my mom” when I will hear a female’s voice in the background. Long periods of ghosting me and then coming back as if nothing happened.
Soon he admitted “I’m sorry. Currently living with this older woman because I have no choice. Her house is close to my work so it’s simply convenient. She cannot know about you. By the way, she knows I’m not attracted to her.”
He soon blamed everything on me. Accused me of denying our love. Lack of sleeping together. What the heck. Blamed his behaviour on me because I didn’t want to be exclusive or keep meeting up with him after 8 pm.
Why would I want to be exclusive with someone who’s so secretive? camming only in the car because of “business trips” Not only that he lied to me about his name as well! Searched his number and found his social media… it turns out he’s married!
Right now, he’s ghosting and giving me the silent treatment until I come to my “senses” smh. Usually, he always comes back over and over again. Not this time blocked him via phone company! Feeling tempted to tell his wife but don’t know if it’s the right thing to do or not.
Now I feel just incredibly stupid for everything thinking back. Lots of regret just about everything.