I (25f) have just found out my mom (49f) has cheated on my dad (50m) with her brother in law (55m)
Long story short, my mom has cheated on my dad with her brother in law. Her sisters husband. My cousin walked in on them and caught them in the act.
I don’t know what to even think, say or do. We were such a close family, we always hung out, did family parties now it’s all gone.
My mom drinks pretty heavily and is just blaming it on that. I don’t think it’s an excuse. My aunt has left and gone to stay with my grandma.
My aunt and cousins will never speak to my mom again. My dad is just making excuses up for my mom saying she was drunk and didn’t know what she was doing but we’ve all had our suspicions for a while.
My mom and aunty have argued before about how close my mom and her husband are. I can’t bare the thought of never speaking to my mom again but I’m so so angry.
My family is ruined. I feel empty and I can’t talk to anyone about it because it’s so embarrassing. What the hell do I do?
I just can’t believe this is happening to me.
Netizens’ comments
- Remember, nothing is your fault, only your mother/uncle’s fault. Maybe your father is married for too long and his spirit is already broken since he’s being a chump, regardless it would be nice to give him some support.
Forgiving your mother is your choice but remember that forgiveness is more about yourself than about others. You do it in order to have a lighter soul and a calmer mind, which doesn’t oblige you to interact with your mother the same way, just allow you to don’t get angry or sad whenever you see her.
Best of Luck!!! - Ah the last resort of the shameless cheater, ever present in their armoury.
Just remember, this isn’t about you or your morals, this is about them, you need to feel no shame for what they’ve done or who they are, this does not reflect on you. Support your dad, without referring to your mum, because he must be going through all sorts of pain right now, as you are, and just try and heal from this betrayal, which will come with time.