I got to know a guy from a dating app, and ultimately got together. He came to my house a few times for dinner and spend time together. He claimed both his parents has passed on and he does not have many friends, hence I have never met his family nor his friends. He was very nice to me and my parents, there are small actions that makes me feel he is genuine.
After few months, he borrowed money from me and agreed to repay in x month when he got bonus. The repayment did not happen.
When he failed to repay, and I was unhappy, he invited me to his place (as I have always wanted to visit him and he always push it away with all sorts of excuses). When I was there, he claimed that he owned the place and told me how much he has bought it, etc.
One day, I found out that he has lied about his residence and the fact that he does not owned the place.
Since then, I kept the secret that I knew about the fact, instead I texted him if he has anything to confess which he deny there is any. At the same time, I also keep pressing for repayment, even by instalments, but each time, he fails to meet his agreed repayment date.
Subsequently when we met, I told him this fact calmly (no throwing of things or shout, etc), he thinks that I have confronted him and that he has good reasons not to tell me the truth.
We broke up after that day, but I am still texting him trying to get back my money. I am still in love with him in the beginning and we still texted each other, hoping that he will returns the money and things between us will get back to norm. I tried finding out about his friends and message via fb some of them, hoping someone can tell me he is a kind person. Someone did reply but he is not able to provide me with his characters/information.
As time passed, more and more lies have been uncovered/said. (lies = what he said previously does not matched with what was said now)
He can affords to stay at a rented place with monthly rent of ~$4k and drives a car, yet still borrowed money from me when I stayed in 3-room govt flat with aged parents.
I am very curious about his intention when he gets to know me and why can one keeps lying so naturally but I will never know the truth.
The world is full of bad people. For now, I am giving him one last chance of repaying me with discount given to him, or I am considering to go to debt collector for their help (which I am really guilty about, thinking what if he really has unspoken difficulties?)